Sanhedrin, Chapter 8, Mishnah 3. This Mishnah also deals with the technical details required for the conviction of a ben sorer u'moreh, and it contains two main points.
The Two Conditions in the Mishnah:
The source of the money - from his father: The money with which the son purchases the meat and wine must be taken from his parents, from his father. The reason for this is that his access to his father's money is easy and available, and therefore he is likely to repeat the act over and over and develop a fixed habit. In contrast, if he obtains the money by robbing a liquor store, the matter will end quickly and the habit will be broken, since he does not have easy access to this type of money.
The location of the eating - far from his parents: The eating and drinking must take place elsewhere, not in the parents' home. Because if he did this at home, he would be afraid of his parents, which would limit it: they would catch him, or he would hesitate to do it regularly. But when he does it out of their sight, at a friend's house, things can get out of control, which is no different from other types of bad behaviors found among children today.
We find a message here for parents: it is their responsibility to supervise their children, not to place excessive trust in them in matters such as access to money, and to keep an eye out to know what they are doing when they are outside the home.
The Words of the Mishnah:
"Ganav mishel aviv ve'achal birshut aviv" - The money was indeed taken from the father, but the eating is done in his domain. Since the son is afraid he will be caught, the habit will not form to the same extent.
"Mishel acherim ve'achal birshut acherim" - The money was stolen from others, which does not meet the requirement. Although the eating is done in the homes of others, where he cannot be strictly supervised (his parents would keep an eye on him, while others do not pay attention to him and are not interested in what he eats), the condition regarding the source of the money is missing.
"Mishel acherim ve'achal birshut aviv" - Here, both criteria are missing.
In all these cases, "eino na'aseh ben sorer u'moreh" - he does not become a wayward and rebellious son.
When, then, does he become a ben sorer u'moreh? "Ad she'yignov mishel aviv ve'yochal birshut acherim" - he must steal the money specifically from his father, and eat the meat and drink the wine far from his father's house: in another's house, in the forest, or wherever the act takes place.
The Opinion of Rabbi Yosei bar Rabbi Yehudah:
Rabbi Yosei bar Rabbi Yehudah adds an additional condition, and it is a far-reaching condition: "Ad she'yignov mishel aviv u'mishel imo" - the money must be stolen from both his father and his mother. From a halachic perspective, it is quite difficult to reach such a situation. He derives this from the wording of the verse, "he does not listen to the voice of his father and to the voice of his mother," which equates the father to the mother in the verse, and therefore it must be the money of both of them. Once again, it should be emphasized that the verse itself mentions nothing about stealing, but rather the tradition is that this involves stealing.
In order for the mother, as a married woman, to have her own money, it had to be given to her in a specific way: she had an uncle or a friend who told her, "I am giving you money, but it is intended specifically for you and not for your husband." Only then can she have her own money, which, according to Rabbi Yosei bar Rabbi Yehudah, must also be part of the money that the son stole and used to buy the meat and wine.